So, You Caught Feelings For a Regular Client

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It can happen easily and quite quickly: you develop feelings for regular clients.

I’m not talking about having a special connection or fondness for them, that’s bound to happen and pretty much imperative to having a good regular client relationship. No, I’m talking about developing real feelings. Feelings of love. Possibly even falling in love. What should happen next? What should you do when you gain feelings for a regular client.

When a Client Has Feelings For You

It’s not uncommon for clients to tell you that they love you or that they’re falling in love with you. These feelings may be genuine or they may be perceived. After all, it’s our job to make them feel good, to feel wanted, to feel desired. That’s right, it’s our job. What happens after a client tells you they love you is up to you. In my experience, and yes it happens frequently enough, I have either played it off affectionately or acknowledge that they have said and offer to talk about it. It really all depends on who the client is, how long we’ve been seeing each other, and how I feel about them. Either it has either made our connection better, or been the catalyst to end of our time together.

But What if it’s You Who Has Feelings For a Regular Client

I’m not saying that we are all just master manipulators or excellent actresses. As I said, developing an affection for our regulars is bound to happen. If we didn’t like them why would we keep them as regulars? But in general, our feelings should be friendly at best, fondness at worst.

So then, what happens when the feelings we have developed into something deeper? What do you do if you find yourself feeling deep love or falling in love with a client? Well, my dears, you have some introspective thinking to do. Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are these feelings I am having legit? Or did I just happen to have a really good session with them?
  • Am I projecting feelings of love because my client makes me feel desirable?

Asking yourself these questions will help you determine if what you are feeling are legitimate feelings of love.

If you spend some time thinking on it and you come to the decision that you do, in fact, have feelings for your client then you have a little more introspection to do.

Should You Come Clean

So, after careful consideration, you have come to the conclusion that you have developed deep feelings for your client. What do you do next?
This is where you have to be careful. You need to keep in mind that for a lot of your clients, you are a fantasy. You are the woman they are sharing their secrets, fears, hopes, and dreams to without worrying about being ridiculed or judged. It’s your job to make sure you are taking care of your client to the best of your ability. If you tell your client how you feel, this could, and likely will, change the dynamics of your relationship. It will change how they see you, and it could very well cause the relationship to fall apart.

Why it Can Complicate Things

If you do decide to come clean about how you feel, you are going to be risking a lot. Just like a client telling you they love you can end the relationship, so can you telling them your feelings. The way you feel may overwhelm them, scare them even. Are you going to become jealous? Will you start blowing up their phone? Maybe you might try to contact their partner. In their heads, they’re thinking that you just might possibly try to ruin their lives. Yes, all these things are rushing through their brains and it all likelihood, will cause them to ghost you very quickly. You will be left blowing in the wind, devastated, broken hearted, and losing an income source.

What Should You Do Next

Moving forward, you will have to decide if you can continue seeing your client while harboring these feelings. If they are real and strong, you may find that you will have to stop seeing them. And while I normally advocate for honest and open communication, this is one time I would consider coming up with a little white lie to tell them as to why you are cutting them off. I am not saying that you shouldn’t tell him. In the right set of circumstances, you could tell him, the feelings are reciprocated, and you live happily ever after, fairy-tale styles. Although this is unlikely to happen. You, and only you, are the one who is going to be able to decide what you can live with and what you cannot.

What do you think? Can you fall in love with a client and be able to maintain a professional relationship? Let me know!

Peace, Love, & a Hard Cock

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